A lot of people are suffering for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, commonly with soldiers after they’re done with their service, making their lives miserable and dysfunctional, and some sadly resort to taking their own lives.
“P” stands for post or after the traumatic incident, when it is allowed to be weak and lower your guard down and relax. Even war hardened soldiers can become soft and weak, only when you let them to. One thing most people don’t realize, is that life is a perpetual war as long as you’re living.
Though they may have seen horrific and unimaginable things, the lens through which we see the world makes a lot of difference. Lives are lost every minute of everyday, 365 days in a year. If we would go back during our ancestors’ time in the savannah millions of years ago, the sapiens could have killed other species and including neanderthals in ways we could not even imagine, and probably the same reason they’re gone. In a way that modern people perceive as taboo and unethical, but thing is, the word ethical was not created yet back then.
The idea of what’s acceptable and not made us weak, the condition imposed by the society, that’s composed majority of people with misplaced and selective conscience. A world blinded by their own self righteousness and lead by blind people.
“You don’t understand” you may say, “Women and children were being killed or abused”. How did one life become more valuable based on gender and age? One life is one life, is it not?
Imagine your house and it’s burning. That could’ve been devastating event for someone who toil his way all his life just to provide roof for his family. Would you just stand there and watch? or do something about it? You don’t have any background in firefighting but who cares? This is your house!
Talking about choosing to be strong. A 5 year old kid from Alaska last December carried his 18 month old brother to their neighbour 3 miles away from their house at temperature -35C. News said that they were left alone in the house and the kid panicked when the power went off.
I’m not invalidating what soldiers are going through or people suffering from PTSD, but whatever it is that put you there in that position, ask yourself this. Can you do something about what happen? Most likely it already belongs in the past and nothing you can do to reverse it, unless you have access in some kind of time machine and go back in time. As far as the present is concern, all you can do is forgive other people and most importantly, forgive yourself and move on with your life.
When we are deeply immersed with our emotions, it blind us of other things. When something horrible happen, some people feel like as if their experience is the worst, until you learn about the story of other people that would minuscule your suffering. And learning about other people’s suffering, as selfish as it sounds can make you feel a bit better, and it should.
If you or someone you love is suffering, I would highly suggest this book from Victor Frankl, who was at one of Hitler’s Auschwitz concentration camp. Talking about freedom, Frankl said that “between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
People become strong when being strong is their only choice.